This is the third post in a row about pursuing your dreams. I don’t mean to belabor my point, but this is my blog and well, I guess I’m going to belabor my point. I was thinking the other day about a rant I sent to a friend via email saying that it’s not something everyone can do. And I had to wonder to myself after I wrote it, is it something everyone can do? Was I wrong to be so judgmental, to act superior based on my own “hardships?”
I don’t know. But I would, now, ask a series of questions to someone considering taking the road less traveled. These questions sound fatalistic, but really they’re just taking the romance out of the whole deal.
They go like this…Are you ready to
1. Be scared to death on an hourly or daily basis because you now really have to put out the ideas and feelings closest to your heart?
2. Be bored to death from a lack of connectedness to other people or a lack of immediate work?
3. Lean on your family/lovers/friends for financial and emotional support?
4. Be rejected?
5. Sacrifice relationships you thought were deep, but only turn out to be superficial because someone is intimidated by your passion and work ethic?
6. Have people called “Mom,” “Dad,” and “Doggie” be your best friends?
7. Be without a lover, for lack of time, money or other reasons?
8. Be broke?
9. Be all of the previous things, feel all of the previous things at your current age or the ages that follow your current age?
10. Spend a whole lot of time by yourself, working, without knowing if the fruits of your labor will ever pay off?
11. Watch loved ones, old friends checking off the status quo benchmarks on their list while yours remains empty?
12. Work harder than you’ve ever worked in your life? Work for your life? And your ego and your idea of who you think you are?
13. Forget what everyone else tells you can or can’t do, and just try?
If you can handle all of this, then maybe you’re ready. If you think you can’t, you’d be surprised at what you can handle when you have to. But it is all of this and more that you bring to your table when you head out in untested waters. Because the thing is that it doesn’t matter what you want to do, or how other people view it, the fact that you’re doing anything at all that calls to mind these experiences will scare most people away. They’re scared of you because they’re afraid for themselves.
And perhaps, those who cling to their fears are the ones I hesitate to believe can pull it off.